If the past is holding you back, use this advice to make peace and move on...
When something ends unexpectedly-relationship, a job-it's natural to crave an explanation, and with it, closure. I know this from experience: A few years ago, a very good friend cut me off completely. I was devastated, but worse, years later, I was still obsessing over whether I could have mended the rift. "Woman want to tie up loose ends because we have an irrational fear that letting something go means losing control," says Larina Kase, Psy.D., a life coach in Philadelphia. I tried Kase's tips to free me from thoughts about my ex-pal. Use this advice whenever you need to come to terms with uncertainty.
STEAL A PEARL OF WISDOM "Often we can't move on because we haven't yet learned what we're supposed to from a difficult situation," Kase says. After contemplating whether I'd actually gained some insight from my suffering, I realized I now have a clearer sense of what I need (support) and don't need (capriciousness) from my inner circle.
TAKE YOURSELF OUT OF IT Jot down all the reasons you should stop brooding, then circle the most convincing one, Kase suggests. The best argument on my list: "I need to invest this energy in people who are truly there for me." Repeat your statement to yourself if you start to stew.
DO A SLOW FADE When painful feelings inevitably arise, "think of the emotions as a song on the radio and turn the volume down low," Kase says. It's not about forcing the feelings away but acknowledging them, then shifting your focus to something more productive.
WRITE ON Express yourself on paper, then destroy the evidence. "You will send yourself the message that you've accepted the situation," Kays say. So I wrote a note telling my friend she'd hurt me. But before I shredded it, I realized I'd penned something shocking: "I forgive you." Knowing I had that capacity freed me, finally, to do just that.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Can she be anymore FULL of herself???!!!
Mariah Carey: "Whenever I watch TV and see those poor starving kids all over the world, I can't help but cry. I mean I'd love to be skinny like that but not with all those flies and death and stuff."
Monday, July 28, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Halloween ALREADY!!!
I've just had the most disturbing sight today walking into my local Michael's Craft store and Walgreen's!!! They already had FALL/Halloween decorations up on the shelves!!!!
It's July...maybe the end, but still the middle of summer. There is no reason to push the limit anymore...they have reached it!
Grant you I'm all for the Fall/Halloween season, it is my favorite time of year, but really this is ridiculous. I'm just getting myself all toasty and warm. Enjoying a few weekend getaways, working on my fake bake, and shedding a few of the pounds I acquired since last Fall/Winter.
I'm not going to complain, but gosh...can we get anymore crazy with rollin' out the holiday sooooo soon!
My 2cent!
It's July...maybe the end, but still the middle of summer. There is no reason to push the limit anymore...they have reached it!
Grant you I'm all for the Fall/Halloween season, it is my favorite time of year, but really this is ridiculous. I'm just getting myself all toasty and warm. Enjoying a few weekend getaways, working on my fake bake, and shedding a few of the pounds I acquired since last Fall/Winter.
I'm not going to complain, but gosh...can we get anymore crazy with rollin' out the holiday sooooo soon!
My 2cent!
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Friday, July 25, 2008
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Oh Boy...IT'S A GIRL....
Retraction: Seem my Sunny Boy is a Sunny GIRL. So I think I'm gonna name her Bella Mia 'ShineShine' which is close to "My Beautiful SunShine!" Go figure...the BIG Boy...is My BIG Girl.
Friday, July 18, 2008
Me and SunnyBoy...
Well I’m writing this with my new ‘Feathered Friend’, a cute lutino Cockatiel, sitting on my shoulder. I’ve had him just over 24 hours and he is a very friendly bird. I’ve named him Sunny Boy, Sunny for Short, as he came with no name.
I don’t know much about his past life, but he must have had some loving parent at one time, because he not very shy or skittish around me. He’s not ready to get on my finger just yet, but he will fly somewhere, allow me to pick him up, and then he wants to be on my shoulder. He wanted to be on my shoulder so bad, he flew from the top of his cage to my bed, just because he couldn’t stand seeing me lying down. Ha Ha Guess if I can’t pick him up yet, I just need to ignore him and he will come flying like some bat out of ‘H E Double Hockey Sticks’ straight for me. That’s pretty good for just 24 hours.
I’ve wanted a bird for a bit, but the real bug didn’t come until a few weeks ago when I saw this traditional cockatiel in the pet store. He whistled, I whistled, and he mimicked me back—this went on for a bit and I was hooked. I feel in love, but I waited too long and I didn’t get him. So, my mission began. I wanted a bird and I need to do a little searching. I overheard one of the cashiers talk about her bird and how she got it from a rescue center. A kernel was planted and I was online that night looking for my feathery friend.
Now, I have to say it wasn’t as easy as I thought! You would think typing in the search field for ‘Michigan Bird Rescue’ there would have come up with at least 1 entry, but I was getting really off the wall links. I finally found a huge rescue center in
There was some hesitation on getting a bird, especially with an unknown history, but after a few weeks of searching breeders…my internal heartbeat was telling me I needed to rescue a bird. I’ve been trying to do some volunteering work and it just made more sense for me to adopt. Mary was great and informed me that I could foster and see how I and my feathered friend got along. Bright light went on…and that sounded like the perfect plan. I could help a bird and hopefully we would get along and I could adopt him later.
Less than 24 hours and he’s shown that he’s a little lover boy…or I’m hoping he’s a boy, since I’ve named him Sunnyboy. Of course Sunny can be for a boy or girl, but if I had waited a bit, Romeo would have been the perfect name. Either way, my first real experience with the feathered kind is great.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Mojito Dance
Summer, summer, summer time fun!
Let me start off by saying I had the most wonderful Summer-Time drink this past weekend—‘Mojito’s.!’ The cool, crisp scent of mint, the sweet/tart limes, and a bit of sugar, topped off with rum and club soda really hit the best spot!
What a cool and refreshing drink these are, but believe me when I say you can get so wrapped up in the freshness of these drinks that it will sneak up on you and take a bite. Make sure you prepare for a stationary place or sober person to drive you while dancing the Mojito! They absolutely go down smooth and are the right touch of goodness to put a smile on your face.
I researched a few recipes and I’ve included one on this posting, but if anyone has a different one, please pass it along. I’m also very curious about the new pre-mixed varieties: Bacardi’s Mojito ready-made and Smirnoff Vodka Mojito’s (ready-made). I did not use vodka in my recipe, simply Bacardi Rum, but I’m curious in seeing how the ready-made varieties stand up to the recipe.
Personally, I think the joy of muddling the mint, lime, and sugar is much more fun. And after the second drink you start to feel the rhythm and dancing the Mojito hip sway…caution as you might throw a joint out of place.
Bacardi Rum Mojito’s (need muddle or wooden spoon is fine)
In large tumbler glass-
6 to 12 fresh mint leaves (6 large are fine)
½ lime (quartered)
½ shot glass of sugar
Muddle with muddler or wooden spoon to crush mint and lime up
Once you have that done, then add 1 shot of Bacardi Clear/Light Rum and 3 Shots of Club Soda (you can use just carbon water if you don’t want the extra sweetness and you can increase you Rum content to desired level, but 1 to 3 parts seems to be the ideal combo).
Stir all together, add ice, and garnish with mint and slice of lime…or in my case, skip the garnish and just drink.
Mojito Hip Sway soon to follow.
Enjoy and let me know how you like them.
Cheers~
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
The 2008
Can You Dig It!
Saturday, August 9th 12:00pm
Check out the Scene, it’ll be happenin’!
The Pad:
The Digits:
734-289-2992
Pig out at Bill’s Smokin' Shack, featuring the Gutt Waddin' Burger and Dogs. Chow time starts at 3pm. ~ Don’t Bogart the fixins' man, bring your chow to share with the groupies.
All you Flower Children, come tied dyed, barefoot and the bras ready to burn...it'll be groovy.
Bring your homemade goods and worthy duds for the auction. It’s sure to be a blast. And don’t forget to grab some bread as the 50/50 raffle will be trip’.
Make Love, NOT War, PEACE!
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